Long before AIDS made an entry into our dictionaries and our daily
paranoias, there were other sexual scares: syphilis, gonorrhea,
chlamydia and genital warts, to name a few. But no one really talked
those days about safe sex (although some of these other
sexually-transmitted infections could also eventually cost victims their
lives). In stopping sexual permissiveness dead in its tracks, AIDS may
well have done us a favour: because, the careful sexual behaviour that
is our best security against AIDS also constitutes our best protection
against other Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs).
The essence of
safe sex is avoiding high-risk partners and practices, and using
condom-management strategies. But when it comes down to the specifics,
many questions arise:
Who are the high-risk sexual partners?
The
high-risk groups are homosexuals, bi-sexuals, prostitutes, intravenous
drug abusers; heterosexuals from Central Africa where AIDS is common;
those who have had multiple blood transfusions in areas where AIDS is
rampant. Sexual episodes with high-risk partners are the most common way
the infection is passed on.
The risk of acquiring AIDS from one
penis-vaginal intercourse episode with someone from a high-risk group
has been estimated to be: (with condom) - 1 in 100,000 to 1 in 10,000;
(without condom) - 1 in 10,000 to 1 in 1000. (The wide range of odds is
because of different rates of infection among high-risk groups).
Of
course, someone who's not a high-risk partner is not necessarily a
no-risk partner. When two people sleep together, it's essentially group
sex: they are in effect sleeping with everyone each of them has slept
with in the past five to ten years.
How many sexual encounters with a high-risk partner would it take for the virus to be transmitted?
The
virus can be transmitted through just one sexual encounter with an
infected person. But the chances are less than in the case of multiple
encounters with high-risk persons. In one study at the University of
California, less than 10 out of 100 persons were found to have
contracted the virus through a single sexual encounter with an infected
person. But another study found that the odds got steadily worse with
continuous sexual activity with an infected partner over a two-year
periods - 12 out of 14 people ended up infected.
That is why
another cardinal commandment of safe sex: avoid multiple sexual
partners. Especially if they are unknown, casual partners, you have no
way of knowing which of them is infected, and with every encounter, the
laws of probability favour you less and less. Sex with a single, known,
trustworthy partner is one of your best armour devices against serious
infection. So, if you've tried the rest, now try the best: monogamy!
Is a man more likely to give the infection to a woman than the other way round?
Sperm
does appear to contain a higher concentration of the virus then vaginal
secretions and the virus does appear to be more efficiently transmitted
from men to women then from women to men. But men shouldn't get too
smug about this. In Africa, where the disease has had more time to do
its work, there's a one-to-one infection ratio between men and women.
Which is the most risky sexual practice?
Without
question, anal intercourse without a condom. The walls of the rectum
are thinner than the vaginal walls and therefore more prone to abrasions
and tears. So, the AIDS virus from an infected partner's semen is
absorbed more easily during anal sex.
Other high-risk practices
(with an infected partner) are condomless vaginal intercourse fellatio,
cunnilingus, the sharing of insertive sex toys and anything that would
involve blood contact.
Moderate-risk practices are French kissing,
oral sex using condoms, vaginal sex using condoms and spermicide, and
anal intercourse using condoms and spermicide.
jeudi 20 avril 2017
lundi 17 avril 2017
How To Keep Sex Hot Within A Marriage
You can burn down the house long after the honeymoon passion has cooled.
If the truth be known, most married people would just as soon stay married. They'd love to keep having hot sex with their spouses, and for as long as possible. They'd love to avoid tumbling into some tawdry affair, with all its messy and humiliating consequences.
It's not just AIDS and the fact that we're usually too busy or exhausted to attempt the extra-marital hunt. It's that, deep down; we're basically nice, loving, responsible human beings.
Who would like to get a little more?
So that's the subject of this story: how nice men and women can keep married sex hot for the long haul.
But first, one-word bit of advice about the whole subject: Relax. There's no reason to doubt your manhood or your femininity, or your love for your lover, if seeing her or him naked doesn't arouse you as quickly or as wildly as it once did. It's worrisome, sure. It stirs up all kinds of dark self-doubts. But in a long-term relationship, it's completely natural and predictable to experience a gradual downshift in your sexual responses, and it helps just to know and accept this. You're certainly not alone. (If it's any consolation, there are several thousand other men and women reading this story).
Following are suggestions from the top sex therapists on how to prime yourself for long-life passion:
SHAKE IT UP
There's a lot of talk nowadays about safe sex, but maybe sex (at least once the protection is in place) isn't supposed to be 'safe'. Maybe it's supposed to be one big wild desperate adrenal rush with stuff getting knocked over and things busting apart at the seams - a few breathless moments stolen from death. Maybe that's why married sex - at least the mechanical kind that we sometimes settle for - often seems hardly worth the trouble. Boredom is death to life, and death to sex.
As a result, sex therapists stress the importance of breaking out of boring sexual routines. Alter the pace. Try going much faster, or much slower, than you usually go. And remember, good sex doesn't always have to be lingeringly slow.
Try some sessions of non-intercourse sex, when foreplay is the main course, not just the appetizer.
Or try some sessions where only one person gets all the goodies. Do it one time just for her/him. Then, other time, she'll (or he'll) do it all for you.
If you're always the aggressor, try letting yourself be seduced. And sometimes both can be aggressors. The only limit is your imagination.
TRY ALL-DAY FOREPLAY
"Always remember that good sex begins while your clothes are still on," say William Masters, M.D. and Virginia Johnson, the grand-dad and -ma of sex study. Getting in the mood is not just the few moments before sex; it can go on for hours, or days, beforehand. Since good sex is just one aspect of a good relationship, it can grow naturally out of the time you spend together.
"The best sex times we ever have usually happen after hours and hours of talking," says one young businessman who's been married five years. "Sometimes, usually it's Saturday, we're talking all day long. The whole day becomes a prelude to bed. If we take the time to reconnect, to really say 'hello' again, after the madness of the work week, things often get very special after we turn out the lights."
RE-POSITION
Address your mate from a new angle. For ideas, take a look at those classic how-to love manuals, Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana or The Perfumed Garden, an ancient test that describes something in excess of 200 positions. Tell the lady at the bookstore it's for your kid's school paper.
RE-LOCATE
Sleep specialists tell insomniacs never to read or watch TV or do anything else in bed except sleep. Eventually the bed becomes powerfully associated with the sensation of falling asleep. Beds can also become powerfully associated with boring, predictable sex. So try getting out of the bedroom. Many people have fantasies of making love on the living room sofa but don't do it. It takes a little effort, but it's worth it.
Think of yourself as a Hollywood location scout, looking over your whole house for promising stage sets. Consider the kitchen, for instance, Kitchens are full of interesting things (Remember Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange on the kitchen table in The Postman Always Rings Twice?) Try the balcony when the stars are just coming out at night. Or your Car. Or a caravan got on hire.
RE-SCHEDULE
Therapists often recommend setting aside some time to be together, when you're not stressed out, exhausted or trying to do two other things at once (Yes, make a date with your spouse!) Arrange to have dinner together once a month, for example. Observe Masters and Johnson: "If you don't spend much quality time with your partner outside the bedroom, it's hard to create a sense of closeness and affection the instant you're ready for sex."
VISIT VICTORIA
Okay, sure - sexy lingerie isn't exactly an original idea. But it works. Black lace panties and those little French maid whatchamacallits with the straps have this amazing way of enhancing one's sexual appetite. Ditto for incendiary male shorts or briefs.
WARM UP THE TV SCREEN
There are certain kinds of videos that can't be watched in the company of a woman without taking a brief, sweet intermission, which may help account for the fact that a good percentage of video rentals now are erotic films.
But watch it: many women are turned off by hardcore films; you might be better off trying something softer.
If the truth be known, most married people would just as soon stay married. They'd love to keep having hot sex with their spouses, and for as long as possible. They'd love to avoid tumbling into some tawdry affair, with all its messy and humiliating consequences.
It's not just AIDS and the fact that we're usually too busy or exhausted to attempt the extra-marital hunt. It's that, deep down; we're basically nice, loving, responsible human beings.
Who would like to get a little more?
So that's the subject of this story: how nice men and women can keep married sex hot for the long haul.
But first, one-word bit of advice about the whole subject: Relax. There's no reason to doubt your manhood or your femininity, or your love for your lover, if seeing her or him naked doesn't arouse you as quickly or as wildly as it once did. It's worrisome, sure. It stirs up all kinds of dark self-doubts. But in a long-term relationship, it's completely natural and predictable to experience a gradual downshift in your sexual responses, and it helps just to know and accept this. You're certainly not alone. (If it's any consolation, there are several thousand other men and women reading this story).
Following are suggestions from the top sex therapists on how to prime yourself for long-life passion:
SHAKE IT UP
There's a lot of talk nowadays about safe sex, but maybe sex (at least once the protection is in place) isn't supposed to be 'safe'. Maybe it's supposed to be one big wild desperate adrenal rush with stuff getting knocked over and things busting apart at the seams - a few breathless moments stolen from death. Maybe that's why married sex - at least the mechanical kind that we sometimes settle for - often seems hardly worth the trouble. Boredom is death to life, and death to sex.
As a result, sex therapists stress the importance of breaking out of boring sexual routines. Alter the pace. Try going much faster, or much slower, than you usually go. And remember, good sex doesn't always have to be lingeringly slow.
Try some sessions of non-intercourse sex, when foreplay is the main course, not just the appetizer.
Or try some sessions where only one person gets all the goodies. Do it one time just for her/him. Then, other time, she'll (or he'll) do it all for you.
If you're always the aggressor, try letting yourself be seduced. And sometimes both can be aggressors. The only limit is your imagination.
TRY ALL-DAY FOREPLAY
"Always remember that good sex begins while your clothes are still on," say William Masters, M.D. and Virginia Johnson, the grand-dad and -ma of sex study. Getting in the mood is not just the few moments before sex; it can go on for hours, or days, beforehand. Since good sex is just one aspect of a good relationship, it can grow naturally out of the time you spend together.
"The best sex times we ever have usually happen after hours and hours of talking," says one young businessman who's been married five years. "Sometimes, usually it's Saturday, we're talking all day long. The whole day becomes a prelude to bed. If we take the time to reconnect, to really say 'hello' again, after the madness of the work week, things often get very special after we turn out the lights."
RE-POSITION
Address your mate from a new angle. For ideas, take a look at those classic how-to love manuals, Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana or The Perfumed Garden, an ancient test that describes something in excess of 200 positions. Tell the lady at the bookstore it's for your kid's school paper.
RE-LOCATE
Sleep specialists tell insomniacs never to read or watch TV or do anything else in bed except sleep. Eventually the bed becomes powerfully associated with the sensation of falling asleep. Beds can also become powerfully associated with boring, predictable sex. So try getting out of the bedroom. Many people have fantasies of making love on the living room sofa but don't do it. It takes a little effort, but it's worth it.
Think of yourself as a Hollywood location scout, looking over your whole house for promising stage sets. Consider the kitchen, for instance, Kitchens are full of interesting things (Remember Jack Nicholson and Jessica Lange on the kitchen table in The Postman Always Rings Twice?) Try the balcony when the stars are just coming out at night. Or your Car. Or a caravan got on hire.
RE-SCHEDULE
Therapists often recommend setting aside some time to be together, when you're not stressed out, exhausted or trying to do two other things at once (Yes, make a date with your spouse!) Arrange to have dinner together once a month, for example. Observe Masters and Johnson: "If you don't spend much quality time with your partner outside the bedroom, it's hard to create a sense of closeness and affection the instant you're ready for sex."
VISIT VICTORIA
Okay, sure - sexy lingerie isn't exactly an original idea. But it works. Black lace panties and those little French maid whatchamacallits with the straps have this amazing way of enhancing one's sexual appetite. Ditto for incendiary male shorts or briefs.
WARM UP THE TV SCREEN
There are certain kinds of videos that can't be watched in the company of a woman without taking a brief, sweet intermission, which may help account for the fact that a good percentage of video rentals now are erotic films.
But watch it: many women are turned off by hardcore films; you might be better off trying something softer.
dimanche 16 avril 2017
Never Give Up to Get Your Ex Back, If the Love Still Stays There
With all of the billions of the people in the world, finding true
love can feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. So when you
find that special someone, and you lose them, it can feel like the world
is crumbling down around you.
Don't give up!
You can get your ex back and feel that love once again. But how can you do it? For some reason, he or she decided that the relationship wasn't just right. While it may feel like it is your fault, it isn't. It takes two people to have a relationship and both sides have the ability to make the relationship work.
The key to winning back the love of your ex is to sit down and carefully examine your relationship. What went wrong? This will be a painful process, but in order to move forward, you need to examine the past.
In nearly every relationship, you will find your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend saying the same things to you over and over. They may be big things, like how you need to contribute more to housework, or small things, like you leave your wet towel on the bathroom floor. When someone is feeling frustrated and unloved, both the big and the small things can add up to become a giant invisible wall. Write down all of the complaints that your significant other had, and take a few minutes to think about them.
Now, think back to why you fell in love with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. Why do you want to get your ex back? On a new page, write down all of the things, big and small, that made your relationship special and unique. From your first kiss, to watching a beautiful sunset, to just watching movies on the couch together all snuggled up. All of the moments that make you smile, write them down. This is what you will use to win back your ex.
Many relationships end because one party does not feel like he/she is being heard and appreciated. Maybe you were busy at work, had family issues, or something else that was occupying your mind. Because you felt secure in your relationship, you let the complaints of your significant other go aside because you thought that they would always be there for you.
Since your ex may not want to talk to you, it is time to sit down and write them an email. This letter should be no more than 500 words, and should accomplish several things. You first need to acknowledge that your loved one was hurt, and that they are likely still in pain. Discuss the key points where your relationship broke down, and apologize for your role in them.
Don't give up!
You can get your ex back and feel that love once again. But how can you do it? For some reason, he or she decided that the relationship wasn't just right. While it may feel like it is your fault, it isn't. It takes two people to have a relationship and both sides have the ability to make the relationship work.
The key to winning back the love of your ex is to sit down and carefully examine your relationship. What went wrong? This will be a painful process, but in order to move forward, you need to examine the past.
In nearly every relationship, you will find your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend saying the same things to you over and over. They may be big things, like how you need to contribute more to housework, or small things, like you leave your wet towel on the bathroom floor. When someone is feeling frustrated and unloved, both the big and the small things can add up to become a giant invisible wall. Write down all of the complaints that your significant other had, and take a few minutes to think about them.
Now, think back to why you fell in love with your ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend. Why do you want to get your ex back? On a new page, write down all of the things, big and small, that made your relationship special and unique. From your first kiss, to watching a beautiful sunset, to just watching movies on the couch together all snuggled up. All of the moments that make you smile, write them down. This is what you will use to win back your ex.
Many relationships end because one party does not feel like he/she is being heard and appreciated. Maybe you were busy at work, had family issues, or something else that was occupying your mind. Because you felt secure in your relationship, you let the complaints of your significant other go aside because you thought that they would always be there for you.
Since your ex may not want to talk to you, it is time to sit down and write them an email. This letter should be no more than 500 words, and should accomplish several things. You first need to acknowledge that your loved one was hurt, and that they are likely still in pain. Discuss the key points where your relationship broke down, and apologize for your role in them.
vendredi 14 avril 2017
The Un-Romantic Partner's Guide to Planning Romantic Getaways
Romantic getaways are the stuff of cheap romance novels, promising
passion, desire, and an over-abundance of muscles from the protagonist.
Either way, these types of quick trips out-of-town can be tough on the
person that just isn't a romantic person at all. Sure, they love their
partner, but they just aren't the most suave person in the world.
When you decide to turn up the romance factor with your special someone, you're really trying to avoid a minefield of bad planning. Just remember that as long as you take the time to understand what your significant other finds important, you'll be fine.
You need to understand that the notion of romance is a personal touch. When finding the right romantic place to run off to, think about the destination. Are you interested in mountains? Forests? Maybe you're both incognito beach bums? Either way, immerse yourself with your special someone, and make it all about the both of you.
To this end, you should know whether your partner is more interested in a low-key affair. Just because you jet off to a new place, you don't have to live a jet-setting lifestyle. Sometimes a simple bed and breakfast outside a major metropolitan area (i.e., Fredericksburg, TX instead of Austin, TX) can be the right setting for enjoying a good night's sleep & a relaxing cup of coffee in rural bliss.
Don't be afraid of excitement, though. Romance is sometimes about the thrill, but certainly you can still keep the thrill a little more mild than one would think. Maybe you can go to a concert for a band that plays 'your song'. Perhaps you've both wanted to check out a famous food festival but have never thought of the right occasion to do so.
Of course, it never hurts to think a bit more rustic in terms of your adventure. You may lead a prim little life with ironed clothing and starched collars. Why not make the romance factor grown by putting on some jeans & packing some sleeping bags? Think about taking a trip to a state/national park or camping area. Spending time with your special someone can only be made even more special by spending a night under the stars by the gentle roar of a campfire. S'mores are optional.
Finally, though it may be a little controversial, why not think in terms of a "stay-cation"? The term "stay-cation" has been thrown around a bit, and it's mostly due to people wanting to save money. But when you think about it, how much of your own backyard have you explored together? Throw in a fancy hotel, a killer meal, and a reason to dress up, and you've got the makings of the ultimate romantic hat-trick!
When you decide to turn up the romance factor with your special someone, you're really trying to avoid a minefield of bad planning. Just remember that as long as you take the time to understand what your significant other finds important, you'll be fine.
You need to understand that the notion of romance is a personal touch. When finding the right romantic place to run off to, think about the destination. Are you interested in mountains? Forests? Maybe you're both incognito beach bums? Either way, immerse yourself with your special someone, and make it all about the both of you.
To this end, you should know whether your partner is more interested in a low-key affair. Just because you jet off to a new place, you don't have to live a jet-setting lifestyle. Sometimes a simple bed and breakfast outside a major metropolitan area (i.e., Fredericksburg, TX instead of Austin, TX) can be the right setting for enjoying a good night's sleep & a relaxing cup of coffee in rural bliss.
Don't be afraid of excitement, though. Romance is sometimes about the thrill, but certainly you can still keep the thrill a little more mild than one would think. Maybe you can go to a concert for a band that plays 'your song'. Perhaps you've both wanted to check out a famous food festival but have never thought of the right occasion to do so.
Of course, it never hurts to think a bit more rustic in terms of your adventure. You may lead a prim little life with ironed clothing and starched collars. Why not make the romance factor grown by putting on some jeans & packing some sleeping bags? Think about taking a trip to a state/national park or camping area. Spending time with your special someone can only be made even more special by spending a night under the stars by the gentle roar of a campfire. S'mores are optional.
Finally, though it may be a little controversial, why not think in terms of a "stay-cation"? The term "stay-cation" has been thrown around a bit, and it's mostly due to people wanting to save money. But when you think about it, how much of your own backyard have you explored together? Throw in a fancy hotel, a killer meal, and a reason to dress up, and you've got the makings of the ultimate romantic hat-trick!
lundi 10 avril 2017
Top 5 Ways For Men To Keep Your Relationship Hot This Winter
I recall being an inexperienced, 21-year-old single man-boy and
watching men who were married with children, complaining of being
exhausted and too tired for sex. I vowed upon my stack of priceless (in
terms of memories and joy) comic book cards that the day I complained of
being too tired to cast my wife in my own porno epic was the day that I
would cook dinner 2 nights IN A ROW. When that day came (and *I* was
too tired to do the same), I found myself filled with a sense of defeat
which gave way to a fleeting vision of a possible future where one " too
tired to bust a nut" night turned into many and I was pleasuring myself
to mental pictures of my wife's booty while she slept soundly. Of
course she was thrilled at the vision of TWO hot meals in a row waiting
for her. I was finally able to sympathize with the hard-working man who
came home from a days' work and wanted to relieve some tension and I
found myself shaking my head at my 21-year-old self, wishing that I
could tell him what the future was like, and warn him about that one
girl...
Some couples don't get around to having sex as often as they would like for many reasons: one partner may have a different work schedule than the other, creating a situation in which one partner is chomping at the bit where the other is wrung dry like a wash-rag; one partner may have a higher sex drive than the other one. No matter what the reason, sometimes it sucks and not in the good way. To make matters even worse, in the colder climates, our spirits tend to stay high as long as the sun is in the sky, which is not long.
Here are five ways for your partner and yourself to work around being tired and create new plateaus of pleasure anytime, no matter what your energy levels are:
1. Wash your bum: the meaning of this statement may elude many of you reading this (some of the men reading this, myself included), so I'll give specific directions to gain the maximum level of effectiveness: Imagine yourself as your partner. You've had a long day, your feet are on fire and your back hurts. Your partner wants to "blow off" some steam and their "pleasure pit" smells like sautéed onions wrapped up in a 70-year-old baseball mitt. Of course, you're totally NOT turned on.
What I'm trying to say DIRECTLY TO YOU is that you want to make it as easy as possible for your partner to get turned on. Follow the 1st commandment of tired sex: wash thine bum so thou mayest (possibly) receive some sweet lovin'.
2. Help your partner relax: while sexual desire is major component in the process of experiencing mind-blowing sex, it's not always enough to turn your partner on. Because we are all different beings physically and spiritually, we all have different triggers that need to be pulled before we can go Beast Mode on our partners' (insert place here... ).
Your partner may need to be relaxed before they can tap into their inner panther. Rub their feet. Give them a back massage. Pour them some wine. Get their feedback on what gives them pleasure and then proceed with reckless abandon.
As a add-on to this tip, and this may have suddenly come to my attention because my wife may or may not be standing behind me as I type this: Have the house somewhat decent looking when your partner comes home so that they don't have to expend what little sexual power they have cleaning up a mess that you and your 1-year-old son may or may not have created.
3. Allow your partner to unload verbally and emotionally - While most men tend to retire to their man-caves to recharge their batteries (like myself), women are hard-wired express their feelings and observations about the world-at-large verbally. Literally. Research has brought to light the fact that women speak about 10,000 words A DAY more than we men. They are HARD-WIRED to express themselves verbally and as such, sometimes it's a good policy to just sit back and LISTEN. We as men have all the answers and sometimes your partner doesn't want the answer; they just want to spew their frustrations and anger unto you.
After a good unloading session, you'll notice that your partner is more relaxed and spirited. Now is the time to make your move! Don't always take the first "no" as the final answer - this is classic " her minds telling me no, but her bodies telling me "yes, more!!". The first "no" might simply be an automatic reaction based on how she's feeling at the moment.
4. Another thing to consider is the fact that sometimes our ladies turned on by our assertiveness; they just want us to take charge and "do the damn thing". That's one of the cool things about being a man: we are naturally hard-wired to access what I call the "Primal Male archetype", the man who is all yang and very little-to-no yin.
Thankfully, our women are hardwired to respond positively most of the time. Tap into your Primal Male archetype the next time your lady says "no" (after you've applied at least steps 1,2 and 3). If at first you don't succeed, try, try again, and watch the magic happen.
5. Be okay with NOT having sex - Even the DC universe comic book super-villain/anti-hero Deadshot missed once. There are going to be those times where it's just not going to happen. The trick is to take pleasure in the fact that when "it" does happen, it's going to be mind-blowing; let the anticipation of pleasure carry you blissfully through the next few days.
Armed with this knowledge, use it wisely and make that bedroom that you've been too tired to clean up for the last month even messier with some red-hot lovin'.
Some couples don't get around to having sex as often as they would like for many reasons: one partner may have a different work schedule than the other, creating a situation in which one partner is chomping at the bit where the other is wrung dry like a wash-rag; one partner may have a higher sex drive than the other one. No matter what the reason, sometimes it sucks and not in the good way. To make matters even worse, in the colder climates, our spirits tend to stay high as long as the sun is in the sky, which is not long.
Here are five ways for your partner and yourself to work around being tired and create new plateaus of pleasure anytime, no matter what your energy levels are:
1. Wash your bum: the meaning of this statement may elude many of you reading this (some of the men reading this, myself included), so I'll give specific directions to gain the maximum level of effectiveness: Imagine yourself as your partner. You've had a long day, your feet are on fire and your back hurts. Your partner wants to "blow off" some steam and their "pleasure pit" smells like sautéed onions wrapped up in a 70-year-old baseball mitt. Of course, you're totally NOT turned on.
What I'm trying to say DIRECTLY TO YOU is that you want to make it as easy as possible for your partner to get turned on. Follow the 1st commandment of tired sex: wash thine bum so thou mayest (possibly) receive some sweet lovin'.
2. Help your partner relax: while sexual desire is major component in the process of experiencing mind-blowing sex, it's not always enough to turn your partner on. Because we are all different beings physically and spiritually, we all have different triggers that need to be pulled before we can go Beast Mode on our partners' (insert place here... ).
Your partner may need to be relaxed before they can tap into their inner panther. Rub their feet. Give them a back massage. Pour them some wine. Get their feedback on what gives them pleasure and then proceed with reckless abandon.
As a add-on to this tip, and this may have suddenly come to my attention because my wife may or may not be standing behind me as I type this: Have the house somewhat decent looking when your partner comes home so that they don't have to expend what little sexual power they have cleaning up a mess that you and your 1-year-old son may or may not have created.
3. Allow your partner to unload verbally and emotionally - While most men tend to retire to their man-caves to recharge their batteries (like myself), women are hard-wired express their feelings and observations about the world-at-large verbally. Literally. Research has brought to light the fact that women speak about 10,000 words A DAY more than we men. They are HARD-WIRED to express themselves verbally and as such, sometimes it's a good policy to just sit back and LISTEN. We as men have all the answers and sometimes your partner doesn't want the answer; they just want to spew their frustrations and anger unto you.
After a good unloading session, you'll notice that your partner is more relaxed and spirited. Now is the time to make your move! Don't always take the first "no" as the final answer - this is classic " her minds telling me no, but her bodies telling me "yes, more!!". The first "no" might simply be an automatic reaction based on how she's feeling at the moment.
4. Another thing to consider is the fact that sometimes our ladies turned on by our assertiveness; they just want us to take charge and "do the damn thing". That's one of the cool things about being a man: we are naturally hard-wired to access what I call the "Primal Male archetype", the man who is all yang and very little-to-no yin.
Thankfully, our women are hardwired to respond positively most of the time. Tap into your Primal Male archetype the next time your lady says "no" (after you've applied at least steps 1,2 and 3). If at first you don't succeed, try, try again, and watch the magic happen.
5. Be okay with NOT having sex - Even the DC universe comic book super-villain/anti-hero Deadshot missed once. There are going to be those times where it's just not going to happen. The trick is to take pleasure in the fact that when "it" does happen, it's going to be mind-blowing; let the anticipation of pleasure carry you blissfully through the next few days.
Armed with this knowledge, use it wisely and make that bedroom that you've been too tired to clean up for the last month even messier with some red-hot lovin'.
samedi 8 avril 2017
3 Ways for Men to Increase Their Libido Naturally
Low libido is not a problem just among women. A lot of men also
experience a drop in their sex drive as they get older. However, age is
not such an important factor here. There are men in their 60s and 70s
who can boast of powerful libido. Then, what is it that deplete male
libido?
Well, to be honest, a couple of factors can take a toll your sex drive and these could be a mix of physical and emotional issues.
As far as physical factors are concerned, lack of exercise and a drop in your testosterone levels can have a negative impact on your sex drive. On the other hand, emotional issues like stress, depression, anxiety, guilt and other negative feels such as anger etc. can put sex on the backseat.
Listed below are 3 great ways to boost your libido naturally:
1. Try Some Libido Boosting Foods
Love foods or aphrodisiacs have been around for thousands of years and they have been used by both men and women to enjoy better and passionate love-making. Oysters are a great example of such foods, They are rich in zinc and can help enhance your testosterone levels.
Chocolate is another natural libido booster. You can also try foods that are great for enhancing blood flow in your body. Pomegranates and watermelons are particularly good for enhancing blood circulation in your body.
2. Try to Manage Stress
At the same time, it's important to manage stress in your life. Stress can also result in poor performance in bed. It upsets hormonal balance in your body by lowering testosterone secretion.
One of the best ways to deal with stress is with regular exercise. Some other ways include yoga and meditation. A gym workout provides another major benefit. It helps increase blood circulation in your body. Good blood flow to the genitals is important for powerful sex drive.
3. Try Natural Libido Supplements
Last, but not the least, you can try natural libido supplements. Such supplements are a perfect way for men to enjoy better libido and harder erections. Some of the best ones consist of ingredients like l-arginine, tribulus terrestris, long jack or tongat ali, panax ginseng, ginkgo biloba etc.
These supplements not only boost testosterone secretion in your body but also help enhance blood flow, both of which are crucial for a powerful sex drive in men.
Well, to be honest, a couple of factors can take a toll your sex drive and these could be a mix of physical and emotional issues.
As far as physical factors are concerned, lack of exercise and a drop in your testosterone levels can have a negative impact on your sex drive. On the other hand, emotional issues like stress, depression, anxiety, guilt and other negative feels such as anger etc. can put sex on the backseat.
Listed below are 3 great ways to boost your libido naturally:
1. Try Some Libido Boosting Foods
Love foods or aphrodisiacs have been around for thousands of years and they have been used by both men and women to enjoy better and passionate love-making. Oysters are a great example of such foods, They are rich in zinc and can help enhance your testosterone levels.
Chocolate is another natural libido booster. You can also try foods that are great for enhancing blood flow in your body. Pomegranates and watermelons are particularly good for enhancing blood circulation in your body.
2. Try to Manage Stress
At the same time, it's important to manage stress in your life. Stress can also result in poor performance in bed. It upsets hormonal balance in your body by lowering testosterone secretion.
One of the best ways to deal with stress is with regular exercise. Some other ways include yoga and meditation. A gym workout provides another major benefit. It helps increase blood circulation in your body. Good blood flow to the genitals is important for powerful sex drive.
3. Try Natural Libido Supplements
Last, but not the least, you can try natural libido supplements. Such supplements are a perfect way for men to enjoy better libido and harder erections. Some of the best ones consist of ingredients like l-arginine, tribulus terrestris, long jack or tongat ali, panax ginseng, ginkgo biloba etc.
These supplements not only boost testosterone secretion in your body but also help enhance blood flow, both of which are crucial for a powerful sex drive in men.
jeudi 6 avril 2017
The Uniform of Play: Gun and Police Uniform As an Object of Sexual Desire
I confess. I suffered from a rare condition known as the uniform
fetishism. My uniform fetishism was sexual in nature. Uniform fetishism
is a sexual fetishism where an individual is sexually aroused by
uniforms. Yes, you read that right, a uniform can aid in sexual matters.
Well, it did for me. But, that doesn't make me a jerk. All I am
advocating for is that all human beings in their diversities must be
allowed to explore our rights of desire to the extent necessary without
impediments.
It should be noted that the academic literature on uniforms as a fetish is sparse. Generally, the most common uniforms in uniform fetish category include those of a police officer, prison warder, soldier, schoolgirl, and nurse.
Sociologists describe uniform fetishism as someone who derives sexual pleasure from viewing others dressed in the typical uniform. In my case, my irrational obsession was with the South African Police Service (SAPS) uniform worn by women. And, for me it was also directly linked to the presence of a firearm.
Dr. Dinesh Bhugra and Dr. Padmal De Silva are one of a few researchers who have studied this phenomenon. Their 1996 paper looked at the function of uniforms, and their relationship with sexual fantasy and sexual fetishism. They noted that uniforms can be seen as 'outer skins' that can be material and attractive in sexual terms, and that can enable individuals to display and wield power. Bhugra and Da Silva described the functions of uniforms as comprising the 'five F's' (formal, fashion, fun, fantasy and fetish).
For me, I have something uniquely perplexing about the women in blue. I have had a desire to sleep with an armed woman dressed in the South African police uniform. I know it's wacky but hear me out. My desire does not make me a masochist. I don't have sexual deviant behaviour, hence I don't associate the police uniform with punishment or torture as part of sexual pleasure.
My fetishism with the women in blue has a long standing condition. I became acutely aware of it in the early 90s. The more women joined the police service, it simply worsened my condition. Somehow, I felt like a sexual deviant, but I realised I am not. In any event many forms of sociologically deviant behaviour are not sanctioned by law, so I am not a sexual criminal either.
My sexual uniform fetishism reached its crescendo in 1999 when I finally dated a cop. Yes, I was once in love with a woman to the extent that she was in a police uniform and brandished a gun. I must admit. She wasn't my kind of girl. She was short, a little chubby and fair in complexion. As readers of this column know, I prefer my women tall, slender and yellow boned.
For this particular woman, I am certain that I was not sexually attracted to her beyond her in a police uniform. Let's put it this way, I was sexually attracted to her to the extent that she was a cop who wore a uniform and carried a gun. Our love "affair" if you can call it that was short-lived. We had fun while it lasted. I had to cut it short because my uniform fetishism was wearing thin. She was an emotional being in need of emotional excitement beyond her profession. I couldn't be there for her emotionally. I was not into her.
In fact, I was into her to the extent that she was only allowed to come and see me during working hours, and, wait for it - she had to be in full police uniform and have her gun in the holster. As part of our play, my job was to disarm and undress her so that I could have my way with her. Clearly, this was not sustainable at least for her. For me, it felt like having your own cake and eating it too. I had the time of my life. I never disclosed my uniform fetishism condition to her. She genuinely believed I was romantically attracted to her. Poor thing!
Our relationship ended abruptly. She had in her mind fallen in love with me. However, for her to be certain, I had to pass an emotional test. She had manna from the heavens when in one of our sexual encounters there was an incident where the condom went kaput. Obviously, after the fact we had to get an emergency contraceptive pill which allowed us to play, "couple". Weeks later she told me she was pregnant. She also demanded that we both go for HIV/Aids testing. However, every time we had an appointment to do the test, she didn't pitch. Any meeting with her had become cumbersome as she threatened to shoot herself if she discovered that I had infected her with HIV/Aids.
A month later, in a bizarre confession, she admitted that she had just been playing games with my mind. She was neither HIV/Aids positive, nor pregnant or suicidal. "I just wanted to see if you love me," she said. For me during this period I was in a panic because I feared that I might have contracted the sexual transmitted diseases especially HIV/Aids. While, I was relieved that she wasn't pregnant, I couldn't forgive her for putting me through the emotional roller coaster ride just to see if I loved her enough. The fact is I was not in love with her, but in love with her police uniform. After this episode, my condition was somehow cured. I now look at police women as women not just objects of desire.
It should be noted that the academic literature on uniforms as a fetish is sparse. Generally, the most common uniforms in uniform fetish category include those of a police officer, prison warder, soldier, schoolgirl, and nurse.
Sociologists describe uniform fetishism as someone who derives sexual pleasure from viewing others dressed in the typical uniform. In my case, my irrational obsession was with the South African Police Service (SAPS) uniform worn by women. And, for me it was also directly linked to the presence of a firearm.
Dr. Dinesh Bhugra and Dr. Padmal De Silva are one of a few researchers who have studied this phenomenon. Their 1996 paper looked at the function of uniforms, and their relationship with sexual fantasy and sexual fetishism. They noted that uniforms can be seen as 'outer skins' that can be material and attractive in sexual terms, and that can enable individuals to display and wield power. Bhugra and Da Silva described the functions of uniforms as comprising the 'five F's' (formal, fashion, fun, fantasy and fetish).
For me, I have something uniquely perplexing about the women in blue. I have had a desire to sleep with an armed woman dressed in the South African police uniform. I know it's wacky but hear me out. My desire does not make me a masochist. I don't have sexual deviant behaviour, hence I don't associate the police uniform with punishment or torture as part of sexual pleasure.
My fetishism with the women in blue has a long standing condition. I became acutely aware of it in the early 90s. The more women joined the police service, it simply worsened my condition. Somehow, I felt like a sexual deviant, but I realised I am not. In any event many forms of sociologically deviant behaviour are not sanctioned by law, so I am not a sexual criminal either.
My sexual uniform fetishism reached its crescendo in 1999 when I finally dated a cop. Yes, I was once in love with a woman to the extent that she was in a police uniform and brandished a gun. I must admit. She wasn't my kind of girl. She was short, a little chubby and fair in complexion. As readers of this column know, I prefer my women tall, slender and yellow boned.
For this particular woman, I am certain that I was not sexually attracted to her beyond her in a police uniform. Let's put it this way, I was sexually attracted to her to the extent that she was a cop who wore a uniform and carried a gun. Our love "affair" if you can call it that was short-lived. We had fun while it lasted. I had to cut it short because my uniform fetishism was wearing thin. She was an emotional being in need of emotional excitement beyond her profession. I couldn't be there for her emotionally. I was not into her.
In fact, I was into her to the extent that she was only allowed to come and see me during working hours, and, wait for it - she had to be in full police uniform and have her gun in the holster. As part of our play, my job was to disarm and undress her so that I could have my way with her. Clearly, this was not sustainable at least for her. For me, it felt like having your own cake and eating it too. I had the time of my life. I never disclosed my uniform fetishism condition to her. She genuinely believed I was romantically attracted to her. Poor thing!
Our relationship ended abruptly. She had in her mind fallen in love with me. However, for her to be certain, I had to pass an emotional test. She had manna from the heavens when in one of our sexual encounters there was an incident where the condom went kaput. Obviously, after the fact we had to get an emergency contraceptive pill which allowed us to play, "couple". Weeks later she told me she was pregnant. She also demanded that we both go for HIV/Aids testing. However, every time we had an appointment to do the test, she didn't pitch. Any meeting with her had become cumbersome as she threatened to shoot herself if she discovered that I had infected her with HIV/Aids.
A month later, in a bizarre confession, she admitted that she had just been playing games with my mind. She was neither HIV/Aids positive, nor pregnant or suicidal. "I just wanted to see if you love me," she said. For me during this period I was in a panic because I feared that I might have contracted the sexual transmitted diseases especially HIV/Aids. While, I was relieved that she wasn't pregnant, I couldn't forgive her for putting me through the emotional roller coaster ride just to see if I loved her enough. The fact is I was not in love with her, but in love with her police uniform. After this episode, my condition was somehow cured. I now look at police women as women not just objects of desire.
mercredi 5 avril 2017
Keys to Staying Connected in Your Relationship
"Marriage isn't just about raising kids, splitting chores and making
love. It can also have a spiritual dimension that has to do with
creating an inner life together - a culture rich with rituals, and an
appreciation for your roles and goals that link you..." Gottman, 7
Principals of Making a Marriage Work
There are different elements that help build and support a shared meaning, all of which should be established and then built on over time. Read through each element and answer the questions after each section, making note of any thoughts that pop up you want to share with your lover.
Four Elements that Build a Shared Meaning and Purpose
Tip 1. Rituals of Connection
Tip 2. Shared Views
Tip 3. Shared Goals and Dreams
Tip 4. Shared Values
Tip 1. Rituals of Connection:
A ritual of connection refers to the small things you do as a couple or a family which build and strengthen the emotional and spiritual connections between you all.
Ask yourself these questions:
• How do you and your partner connect with each other?
• Have you developed your own family rituals?
This could be a special meal on the weekend such as a takeaway on a Saturday or Sunday roast or movie night every Friday.
• In what unique ways do you celebrate religious holidays?
• Do you have a ritual for love making?
• Do you dedicate a day or night per week for family or romance?
Many couples find love and connection flourishes when they have an intimate ritual to look forward to. The key here is to find something that you do together regularly that you can look forward to.
Answer the above questions and think about the rituals of connection you have: do they work for you? Could you improve them to increase your connection or create some new ones?
Tip 2. Shared Views:
Support for Each Other's Roles
When couples come to me a lot of the problems stem from the fall out of what they think their partner "should" be doing versus what they are actually doing. I often hear: "As a husband... " he "should" be doing this, fixing that, paying for this or giving me that. Similarly I hear it the other way round too: "A wife "should" look after the home, stay in with the family and contribute to the finances." The problem stems from the fact that these assumed roles are often never discussed so each person develops their own views on situations without taking the time to understand the perspective of their partner. This where resentment builds. The happiest couples agree on the roles they define for themselves and support each other with them. This is crucial as it helps to build a shared meaning.
Family and Parenting
Having similar views on parenting also adds to a strong sense of shared meaning, so does your views on the level of interaction you expect to have with your parents, siblings and cousins. For example, do you both consider extended family part of your daily family life or do you prefer distance and more of a nuclear family?
There are different elements that help build and support a shared meaning, all of which should be established and then built on over time. Read through each element and answer the questions after each section, making note of any thoughts that pop up you want to share with your lover.
Four Elements that Build a Shared Meaning and Purpose
Tip 1. Rituals of Connection
Tip 2. Shared Views
Tip 3. Shared Goals and Dreams
Tip 4. Shared Values
Tip 1. Rituals of Connection:
A ritual of connection refers to the small things you do as a couple or a family which build and strengthen the emotional and spiritual connections between you all.
Ask yourself these questions:
• How do you and your partner connect with each other?
• Have you developed your own family rituals?
This could be a special meal on the weekend such as a takeaway on a Saturday or Sunday roast or movie night every Friday.
• In what unique ways do you celebrate religious holidays?
• Do you have a ritual for love making?
• Do you dedicate a day or night per week for family or romance?
Many couples find love and connection flourishes when they have an intimate ritual to look forward to. The key here is to find something that you do together regularly that you can look forward to.
Answer the above questions and think about the rituals of connection you have: do they work for you? Could you improve them to increase your connection or create some new ones?
Tip 2. Shared Views:
Support for Each Other's Roles
When couples come to me a lot of the problems stem from the fall out of what they think their partner "should" be doing versus what they are actually doing. I often hear: "As a husband... " he "should" be doing this, fixing that, paying for this or giving me that. Similarly I hear it the other way round too: "A wife "should" look after the home, stay in with the family and contribute to the finances." The problem stems from the fact that these assumed roles are often never discussed so each person develops their own views on situations without taking the time to understand the perspective of their partner. This where resentment builds. The happiest couples agree on the roles they define for themselves and support each other with them. This is crucial as it helps to build a shared meaning.
Family and Parenting
Having similar views on parenting also adds to a strong sense of shared meaning, so does your views on the level of interaction you expect to have with your parents, siblings and cousins. For example, do you both consider extended family part of your daily family life or do you prefer distance and more of a nuclear family?
lundi 3 avril 2017
Proven Ways to Raise Female Sex Drive or Libido
Low libido or lack of sex drive is a common problem that affects
millions of women post menopause. Though a drop in estrogen levels is
one of the factors causing this dip, it's not the lone factor. A lot of
other issues affects can take a toll on your sexual appetite.
However, you do not have to suffer in silence. There are some simple and effective ways to boost your libido even without HRT or hormone replacement therapy.
Here are some of the best ways to boost libido in women:
1. Begin With Estrogen Enhancing Foods - One of the best ways to get a libido boost is with the help of foods that can help enhance your female sex hormone estrogen. Soy and soy products are a great option. In addition to this, you should also include dried fruits, flaxseed, alfalfa sprouts etc. in your diet.
A lot of women tend to cut down on all fats in order to stay slim and reduce their body weight. This can be drastic for your hormone production. This is because sex hormones like estrogen and testosterone are produced with cholesterol and lack of fats can thus, result in a drop in these hormones.
Therefore, you must include essential fats like Omega 3 fatty acids in your diet in a moderate amount. Olive, olive oil and oily fish like salmon, sardines etc. are some of the best sources of such fats.
2. Try To Relax
A lot of women lose their interest in sex because of fatigue and stress. After a long day at work, you feel extremely tired and sex happens to be the last thing on your mind.
Try to find some time for yourself so that you can unwind both your body and mind. Deep breathing exercises are great for reducing stress and enhancing blood flow in your body. Increased blood circulation is great for boosting your energy levels too.
Yoga and meditation are great too. Try to get a light body massage to help you relax. Better still, ask your partner to give you a massage. This will make you relaxed and also increase anticipation and desire to have sex.
3. Try Natural Libido Supplements
Moreover, you can also try libido pills that are specially formulated with women's needs in mind. Such pills have become a massive hit with women buying them in large numbers to enjoy great sex once again.
Such pills are a combination of ingredients such as l-arginine, ginkgo biloba, Tribulus Terrestris, epimedium sagittatum, melatonin etc. They boost your sex hormones and also strikes the perfect balance among them. Not just this, such pills also boost blood flow to the genitals to ensure quicker arousal. They can make you enjoy intense and highly pleasurable sensations so that you can experience strong and multiple orgasms.
Good quality pills are safe and devoid of side effects.
However, you do not have to suffer in silence. There are some simple and effective ways to boost your libido even without HRT or hormone replacement therapy.
Here are some of the best ways to boost libido in women:
1. Begin With Estrogen Enhancing Foods - One of the best ways to get a libido boost is with the help of foods that can help enhance your female sex hormone estrogen. Soy and soy products are a great option. In addition to this, you should also include dried fruits, flaxseed, alfalfa sprouts etc. in your diet.
A lot of women tend to cut down on all fats in order to stay slim and reduce their body weight. This can be drastic for your hormone production. This is because sex hormones like estrogen and testosterone are produced with cholesterol and lack of fats can thus, result in a drop in these hormones.
Therefore, you must include essential fats like Omega 3 fatty acids in your diet in a moderate amount. Olive, olive oil and oily fish like salmon, sardines etc. are some of the best sources of such fats.
2. Try To Relax
A lot of women lose their interest in sex because of fatigue and stress. After a long day at work, you feel extremely tired and sex happens to be the last thing on your mind.
Try to find some time for yourself so that you can unwind both your body and mind. Deep breathing exercises are great for reducing stress and enhancing blood flow in your body. Increased blood circulation is great for boosting your energy levels too.
Yoga and meditation are great too. Try to get a light body massage to help you relax. Better still, ask your partner to give you a massage. This will make you relaxed and also increase anticipation and desire to have sex.
3. Try Natural Libido Supplements
Moreover, you can also try libido pills that are specially formulated with women's needs in mind. Such pills have become a massive hit with women buying them in large numbers to enjoy great sex once again.
Such pills are a combination of ingredients such as l-arginine, ginkgo biloba, Tribulus Terrestris, epimedium sagittatum, melatonin etc. They boost your sex hormones and also strikes the perfect balance among them. Not just this, such pills also boost blood flow to the genitals to ensure quicker arousal. They can make you enjoy intense and highly pleasurable sensations so that you can experience strong and multiple orgasms.
Good quality pills are safe and devoid of side effects.
dimanche 2 avril 2017
the Ways To Impress Your Date With A Movie Grill Outing
Though it's a bit presumptuous, we'll assume we're appealing to a
male audience who is looking for some advice so as to impress his
special lady on their upcoming date. You could do all manner of things
& criss-cross the town trying to be spontaneous, cute, adventurous,
and all-together charming. You could also go the easy route and impress
your date with a night out to a movie grill/dine-in theater experience.
Now, there may be some wondering how exactly can this seemingly simple date option win over your date's heart? I mean you could do a light dinner in the park by candlelight or even go dancing while "dressed to the nines". How exactly can a movie grill adventure make you seem totally, and completely, awesome?
Now, there may be some wondering how exactly can this seemingly simple date option win over your date's heart? I mean you could do a light dinner in the park by candlelight or even go dancing while "dressed to the nines". How exactly can a movie grill adventure make you seem totally, and completely, awesome?
samedi 1 avril 2017
Ways to Increase Male Libido Naturally
ust like women, men too experience libido issues as they get older. Some of the key reasons behind this include the following:
1. How to Boost Blood Flow to Genitals
The easiest and the best way to do so is with the help of regular exercise. Exercises that involve lower body are just great for this purpose. So, you must include squats, lunges, leg presses, leg curls etc. in your workout.
2. How to Boost Testosterone Levels
Testosterone is the primary male sex hormone and a drop in it can result in a lot of changes apart from low libido. Here are some simple tips to boost it naturally:
Stress, depression and other negative feelings can take a toll on your testosterone levels. Here are some ways to beat stress:
4. How to Increase Nitric Oxide Levels
Nitric oxide is crucial for proper blood flow in your body. Without proper blood circulation to the genitals, you are likely to have low libido. Nitric oxide is important for dilating blood vessels resulting in improved blood flow to the genitals. Pomegranates and watermelons are excellent for increasing nitric oxide secretion.
L-arginine is also great for the same reason. You must have foods that are rich in this amino acid. Some of best examples of such foods are red meat, beef, nuts and beans, dairy and dairy products etc.
5. Try Natural Libido and Testosterone Boosters
Perhaps the best way to boost your libido is by trying a natural libido and testosterone booster. Such supplements are a combination of herbs and minerals that stimulate testosterone production in your body. They also help boost blood circulation to the genitals without any side effects or affecting your blood pressure.
Such pills can provide a lot of other benefits when you use them in combination with a regular exercise routine. Some of the best ones can help enhance HGH secretion too.
- poor blood flow to the genitals
- a drop in testosterone levels
- chronic stress and depression
- reduced nitric oxide levels etc.
1. How to Boost Blood Flow to Genitals
The easiest and the best way to do so is with the help of regular exercise. Exercises that involve lower body are just great for this purpose. So, you must include squats, lunges, leg presses, leg curls etc. in your workout.
2. How to Boost Testosterone Levels
Testosterone is the primary male sex hormone and a drop in it can result in a lot of changes apart from low libido. Here are some simple tips to boost it naturally:
- Strength training is great for increasing testosterone, just a stroll in the park does not have an impact on your testosterone levels. So, hit the gym for at least 4-5 days a week.
- Get enough sleep each night. Lack of sleep builds stress and reduces testosterone.
- Manage stress through yoga or meditation. Stress is a testosterone inhibitor.
- Change your diet and include foods that are rich in proteins, moderate in essential fats and low in carbohydrates. Also have foods that are rich in minerals like zinc, magnesium and selenium.
- Avoid alcohol. Even two drinks a day can seriously hamper testosterone production in your body.
Stress, depression and other negative feelings can take a toll on your testosterone levels. Here are some ways to beat stress:
- yoga
- deep breathing exercises
- meditation
- watching a light comedy
- enjoying a stroll in the park with your partner
- having a light body massage etc.
4. How to Increase Nitric Oxide Levels
Nitric oxide is crucial for proper blood flow in your body. Without proper blood circulation to the genitals, you are likely to have low libido. Nitric oxide is important for dilating blood vessels resulting in improved blood flow to the genitals. Pomegranates and watermelons are excellent for increasing nitric oxide secretion.
L-arginine is also great for the same reason. You must have foods that are rich in this amino acid. Some of best examples of such foods are red meat, beef, nuts and beans, dairy and dairy products etc.
5. Try Natural Libido and Testosterone Boosters
Perhaps the best way to boost your libido is by trying a natural libido and testosterone booster. Such supplements are a combination of herbs and minerals that stimulate testosterone production in your body. They also help boost blood circulation to the genitals without any side effects or affecting your blood pressure.
Such pills can provide a lot of other benefits when you use them in combination with a regular exercise routine. Some of the best ones can help enhance HGH secretion too.
vendredi 31 mars 2017
How to Text a Girl You Just Met - 3 Ways to Get Her Hot for You Via iPhone
Texting that cute girl you just met can seem like an intimidating
process. The good news is, it isn't impossible to get that spark between
you going again. But the tough part is: actually taking out your phone
and texting her!
While it can be a challenge to seduce women via text, it doesn't have to be. In many ways it can actually be easier. You have words in your favor as well as the leisure of figuring out what you will say next.
Text messages can be a powerful way of garnering her interest and getting her to be attracted to you. Here are 3 steps on how to seduce her through text.
1) Start by getting her attention
Women often get inundated with men sending them texts and emails and phone calls trying to get into bed with her. Imagine her coming in from being out all night, taking her dress off, and getting into bed. What's the first thing she sees? Her cell phone, blowing up with all the messages from guys she has just met. This means you have competition.
So you have to do something to get her attention. Something to make yourself stand out from all the other men texting her.
Start by playing it safe. Depending on how close you got with her during your face to face interaction, before she gave her number to you, you should talk to her about something during that conversation.
Try not to overthink it too much; just leave it open with a simple "Hey, what are you up to, young miss?" and you can add a smiley emoticon if you like. Then you wait for her response. If she's busy she'll let you know or text you back when she has a chance. You can also try a message that shows you were really paying attention and listening to her.
Such as: "Hi Jane, how did your shopping trip go? Did you find something you liked?"
After she responds send her a flirty playful message back, something like, "Oh, nice dress. You can wear that when we go out for drinks." The point is to show you are paying attention, keeping the conversation flirtatious and fun.
2) Short and sweet
You should make sure to make your messages short and to the point. Don't send her huge sappy or needy messages. That will turn her off. Just simple, attention-getting, short and interesting texts.
Be sure to adjust to the style of her writing. If she gives you two or three word responses, you should be replying in kind - not sending her four screens of text in your reply.
3) Make her laugh
If you do nothing else, try to get a few laughs out of her. You would be shocked at how important a sense of humor is for women to be attracted to a guy. If she thinks you're funny, she will be a lot more attracted to her.
Some funny texts to send:
1) "Just came from the bookstore. You won't believe what I just saw. It made me think of you... "
2) "Today I'm about 5% more awesome than I was yesterday. What's your daily level of awesome?"
3) "I just flew by private UFO and saw your twin sister - or was it a clone? Do you know anything about this?"
While it can be a challenge to seduce women via text, it doesn't have to be. In many ways it can actually be easier. You have words in your favor as well as the leisure of figuring out what you will say next.
Text messages can be a powerful way of garnering her interest and getting her to be attracted to you. Here are 3 steps on how to seduce her through text.
1) Start by getting her attention
Women often get inundated with men sending them texts and emails and phone calls trying to get into bed with her. Imagine her coming in from being out all night, taking her dress off, and getting into bed. What's the first thing she sees? Her cell phone, blowing up with all the messages from guys she has just met. This means you have competition.
So you have to do something to get her attention. Something to make yourself stand out from all the other men texting her.
Start by playing it safe. Depending on how close you got with her during your face to face interaction, before she gave her number to you, you should talk to her about something during that conversation.
Try not to overthink it too much; just leave it open with a simple "Hey, what are you up to, young miss?" and you can add a smiley emoticon if you like. Then you wait for her response. If she's busy she'll let you know or text you back when she has a chance. You can also try a message that shows you were really paying attention and listening to her.
Such as: "Hi Jane, how did your shopping trip go? Did you find something you liked?"
After she responds send her a flirty playful message back, something like, "Oh, nice dress. You can wear that when we go out for drinks." The point is to show you are paying attention, keeping the conversation flirtatious and fun.
2) Short and sweet
You should make sure to make your messages short and to the point. Don't send her huge sappy or needy messages. That will turn her off. Just simple, attention-getting, short and interesting texts.
Be sure to adjust to the style of her writing. If she gives you two or three word responses, you should be replying in kind - not sending her four screens of text in your reply.
3) Make her laugh
If you do nothing else, try to get a few laughs out of her. You would be shocked at how important a sense of humor is for women to be attracted to a guy. If she thinks you're funny, she will be a lot more attracted to her.
Some funny texts to send:
1) "Just came from the bookstore. You won't believe what I just saw. It made me think of you... "
2) "Today I'm about 5% more awesome than I was yesterday. What's your daily level of awesome?"
3) "I just flew by private UFO and saw your twin sister - or was it a clone? Do you know anything about this?"
mercredi 29 mars 2017
A Simple But Overlooked Tip That Builds Attraction With Women Quickly
Here's a simple and a quick way to build attraction with a woman or a
girl, yet many guys overlook this when they are looking to get the
woman or girl they like attracted to them.
This simple but often overlooked tip is none other than mini-dating.
Yes, while you can talk to a girl to create a connection, you can use mini-dating to your advantage, and build attraction and connection quickly with her.
This is not dating in the traditional sense
Traditional dating is meeting for dinner and going to the movies without any other activities involved.
But mini-dating is different.
With mini-dating you engage in multiple-adventures. Thus, you go to different exciting places (most specifically, places of interest) and have a good time together.
The objective here is to give the woman a fun experience. And make the time you spend together more alluring and exciting.
How mini-dating helps build attraction quickly
One of the major attributes women look for in a guy is fun - a guy who can provide enjoyment and fun experience. This is the kind of guy women are drawn to. Because they want to have fun as well.
Plus, keep in mind you're probably not the only guy trying to win a particular girl over.
The average girl has tons of guys trying to impress her and whatnot.
Every other guy is texting her, talking to her on the phone to try and build rapport. She's probably gone to the movies with a few, and also gone on a dinner date with them.
But she's probably NEVER experienced mini-dating with these guys.
Now, when YOU TOO only take her out to dinner and to the movies, you become like the rest. You become average.
But you NEED NOT be average.
You need to STAND OUT from the other guys she's met.
You need to become unique and interesting.
And one of the best ways to do this is to mini-date with her to give her an alluring and exciting experience. Take her out to interesting places and make her have a good time with you.
Because the more you make her have fun around you, the more you will increase her attraction for you.
How to mini-date with her... the things to do
Go to places where you can show her an interesting and unique time.
Go to flea markets or fairs.
Take her window shopping.
Go to a comedy club, music events, art galleries, plays, game arcade, etc.
Take a walk on the park, HOLDING HANDS, talking, and having a great time together.
You can even go hiking.
Make sure your time together is memorable and fun. So try to go to places of interest to her, or do things you both enjoy.
If she likes arts and galleries, go there.
If she has an interest in photography, then you can go out for some photo shoot.
Use your imagination, because there are tons of interesting things you can do together.
Here's the good news:
Not only is she having fun with you, but this also creates a fun memory that will get her to think about you. Especially when something reminds her of the fun experiences you've both experienced together...
... and this is an advantage you have over the other guys she's met.
Now, here's the secret:
You can go to the movies, but like I mentioned earlier, every guy she's ever dated has done that. So you'd need to stand out.
If you want to go to a movie, then make sure you don't spend several hours just sitting there. Find more time afterwards to engage in other interesting and memorable activities.
The goal here should be about MAXIMIZING the time you spend together. And create an emotional attraction with her by doing exciting things together.
This makes you stand out, because she probably hasn't experienced this with any other guy before.
A common mistake to avoid
Don't spend too much money on a girl to impress her.
"The more money you spend on a woman, the less she appreciates it" says dating expert Joseph Matthews
Instead, find fun and interesting things to do or engage in that don't cost a lot of money.
An important stuff to know... the best time to mini-date with a girl
When you first meet a girl, it is a tendency to go for her phone number, and try to meet up with her on a later date.
Now, instead of asking for her phone number to meet up on a later date, I recommend you mini-date with her the first day of meeting her. (Of course, thus when you have enough time to spend the day together.)
Then go for her phone number when you're unable to hang out with her any longer.
Truth is, you'd want to stand out from other guys she meets to get her interested in you.
Like I mentioned earlier, the average girl has tons of guys trying to win her over. Therefore, mini-dating with a girl you like establishes and strengthens the connection between the two of you.
This simple but often overlooked tip is none other than mini-dating.
Yes, while you can talk to a girl to create a connection, you can use mini-dating to your advantage, and build attraction and connection quickly with her.
This is not dating in the traditional sense
Traditional dating is meeting for dinner and going to the movies without any other activities involved.
But mini-dating is different.
With mini-dating you engage in multiple-adventures. Thus, you go to different exciting places (most specifically, places of interest) and have a good time together.
The objective here is to give the woman a fun experience. And make the time you spend together more alluring and exciting.
How mini-dating helps build attraction quickly
One of the major attributes women look for in a guy is fun - a guy who can provide enjoyment and fun experience. This is the kind of guy women are drawn to. Because they want to have fun as well.
Plus, keep in mind you're probably not the only guy trying to win a particular girl over.
The average girl has tons of guys trying to impress her and whatnot.
Every other guy is texting her, talking to her on the phone to try and build rapport. She's probably gone to the movies with a few, and also gone on a dinner date with them.
But she's probably NEVER experienced mini-dating with these guys.
Now, when YOU TOO only take her out to dinner and to the movies, you become like the rest. You become average.
But you NEED NOT be average.
You need to STAND OUT from the other guys she's met.
You need to become unique and interesting.
And one of the best ways to do this is to mini-date with her to give her an alluring and exciting experience. Take her out to interesting places and make her have a good time with you.
Because the more you make her have fun around you, the more you will increase her attraction for you.
How to mini-date with her... the things to do
Go to places where you can show her an interesting and unique time.
Go to flea markets or fairs.
Take her window shopping.
Go to a comedy club, music events, art galleries, plays, game arcade, etc.
Take a walk on the park, HOLDING HANDS, talking, and having a great time together.
You can even go hiking.
Make sure your time together is memorable and fun. So try to go to places of interest to her, or do things you both enjoy.
If she likes arts and galleries, go there.
If she has an interest in photography, then you can go out for some photo shoot.
Use your imagination, because there are tons of interesting things you can do together.
Here's the good news:
Not only is she having fun with you, but this also creates a fun memory that will get her to think about you. Especially when something reminds her of the fun experiences you've both experienced together...
... and this is an advantage you have over the other guys she's met.
Now, here's the secret:
You can go to the movies, but like I mentioned earlier, every guy she's ever dated has done that. So you'd need to stand out.
If you want to go to a movie, then make sure you don't spend several hours just sitting there. Find more time afterwards to engage in other interesting and memorable activities.
The goal here should be about MAXIMIZING the time you spend together. And create an emotional attraction with her by doing exciting things together.
This makes you stand out, because she probably hasn't experienced this with any other guy before.
A common mistake to avoid
Don't spend too much money on a girl to impress her.
"The more money you spend on a woman, the less she appreciates it" says dating expert Joseph Matthews
Instead, find fun and interesting things to do or engage in that don't cost a lot of money.
An important stuff to know... the best time to mini-date with a girl
When you first meet a girl, it is a tendency to go for her phone number, and try to meet up with her on a later date.
Now, instead of asking for her phone number to meet up on a later date, I recommend you mini-date with her the first day of meeting her. (Of course, thus when you have enough time to spend the day together.)
Then go for her phone number when you're unable to hang out with her any longer.
Truth is, you'd want to stand out from other guys she meets to get her interested in you.
Like I mentioned earlier, the average girl has tons of guys trying to win her over. Therefore, mini-dating with a girl you like establishes and strengthens the connection between the two of you.
lundi 27 mars 2017
The Reason Women Can Be Confusing to Men
Do you find women confusing? Do they make next to no sense? Do they say
one thing, then do the complete opposite? Do they send mixed signals?
Is there an end to your ever-growing confusion when it comes women's seemingly unpredictable behavior? What if there was a simple way to understand it.
There is.
If these questions have plagued you -- if you feel left in the dark, only to find yourself amazed by those select few guys who seem to understand women's code, let me shed some light so you can join them instead of admiring them.
Let me share with you the single reason for any confusion you may have understanding why sometimes women mystify men and exactly how to remove it, allowing you to become invincible to women's confusion.
This gives you the freedom to create the kind of relationships you truly want with women, whether for the short-term or long-term.
What confuses them is not really women. It's themselves. What this means is that their understanding of how they should treat women, as Nature designed sexuality, is flawed.
And because of this misunderstanding, they don't treat women as women. Instead, they treat women, not by who women REALLY are underneath, but by who they THINK women are.
Most guys tend to either see women as princesses, bitches, or fragile creatures. It is in having these views on women where all the confusion starts.
Now, some women DO appear to be princesses. Some DO appear to be bitches. Others DO appear to be fragile.
But DON'T mistake these appearances for what's really going in underneath.
Understanding women's behavior has more to do with removing your own confusion than actually understanding women.
The important thing to understand about women's sometimes confusing behavior is that the ONLY reason they do it -- are you ready for this -- is to confuse YOU!
And if it works, they continue to use it.
Women aren't really confusing. They just PRETEND to be!
And sometimes, when we pretend to be something we're not, we eventually start acting that way from habit. This applies to how women choose to confuse men.
It shifts onto autopilot.
You know those bathroom meetings women have only ten times a night when they're out on the town? What are they talking about?
Men. But more accurately, they're talking about how to confuse men!
Cool Guys understand this. And that's why they are so successful at understanding women and how to communicate with them to get what they want -- because they know all of women's confusing behavior is just an act designed to confuse him.
read more articles here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
Is there an end to your ever-growing confusion when it comes women's seemingly unpredictable behavior? What if there was a simple way to understand it.
There is.
If these questions have plagued you -- if you feel left in the dark, only to find yourself amazed by those select few guys who seem to understand women's code, let me shed some light so you can join them instead of admiring them.
Let me share with you the single reason for any confusion you may have understanding why sometimes women mystify men and exactly how to remove it, allowing you to become invincible to women's confusion.
This gives you the freedom to create the kind of relationships you truly want with women, whether for the short-term or long-term.
What confuses them is not really women. It's themselves. What this means is that their understanding of how they should treat women, as Nature designed sexuality, is flawed.
And because of this misunderstanding, they don't treat women as women. Instead, they treat women, not by who women REALLY are underneath, but by who they THINK women are.
Most guys tend to either see women as princesses, bitches, or fragile creatures. It is in having these views on women where all the confusion starts.
Now, some women DO appear to be princesses. Some DO appear to be bitches. Others DO appear to be fragile.
But DON'T mistake these appearances for what's really going in underneath.
Understanding women's behavior has more to do with removing your own confusion than actually understanding women.
The important thing to understand about women's sometimes confusing behavior is that the ONLY reason they do it -- are you ready for this -- is to confuse YOU!
And if it works, they continue to use it.
Women aren't really confusing. They just PRETEND to be!
And sometimes, when we pretend to be something we're not, we eventually start acting that way from habit. This applies to how women choose to confuse men.
It shifts onto autopilot.
You know those bathroom meetings women have only ten times a night when they're out on the town? What are they talking about?
Men. But more accurately, they're talking about how to confuse men!
Cool Guys understand this. And that's why they are so successful at understanding women and how to communicate with them to get what they want -- because they know all of women's confusing behavior is just an act designed to confuse him.
read more articles here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
samedi 25 mars 2017
Do You Get Nervous Around Girls?
Feeling nervous around girls is a real pain. Yet it is something that can happen to the best of us when we least suspect it.
I'm sure you all know the feelings I'm referring to here — you get butterflies in your stomach, you suddenly feel lethargic, the initiative you had flowing just a few minutes ago seems to dry up, and your mind starts racing ahead and over-analyzing the situation.
Damn, huh?
The "butterflies" in your stomach is actually a reduction in blood flow caused by the bizarre link between your body and mind. In order to beat those butterflies into submission, all you really need to do is get the blood back to your stomach.
This is simpler than it sounds.
When you eat/drink, your stomach is called into action to process the contents into something your body can use. Your stomach uses more blood to accomplish this. Simply put, if you are feeling nervous, you can quite easily beat those feelings by having a quick drink or a snack.
Also, chewing gum can have the same effect, although doing this too much might be risky — as your stomach makes more acid to break down food that isn't there.
That should solve the physical problems of nervousness, but as for the thoughts racing in your head — it's up to you and you alone to keep your objectivity!
read more articles here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
I'm sure you all know the feelings I'm referring to here — you get butterflies in your stomach, you suddenly feel lethargic, the initiative you had flowing just a few minutes ago seems to dry up, and your mind starts racing ahead and over-analyzing the situation.
Damn, huh?
The "butterflies" in your stomach is actually a reduction in blood flow caused by the bizarre link between your body and mind. In order to beat those butterflies into submission, all you really need to do is get the blood back to your stomach.
This is simpler than it sounds.
When you eat/drink, your stomach is called into action to process the contents into something your body can use. Your stomach uses more blood to accomplish this. Simply put, if you are feeling nervous, you can quite easily beat those feelings by having a quick drink or a snack.
Also, chewing gum can have the same effect, although doing this too much might be risky — as your stomach makes more acid to break down food that isn't there.
That should solve the physical problems of nervousness, but as for the thoughts racing in your head — it's up to you and you alone to keep your objectivity!
read more articles here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
vendredi 24 mars 2017
How to Kiss a Girl and Never Get Rejected
You're about to learn, hands down, the best way to successfully get a
girl to kiss you without fear of rejection. In the advanced
version of this technique, you can even get the girl you're talking
to to lean in to kiss you!
So if you've ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you've gotten "the cheek" you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial.
Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:
Most guys don't have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently
So if you've ever been afraid of getting rejected going for a kiss OR you've gotten "the cheek" you know why having a rock-solid technique to moving in for the kiss is 100% crucial.
Going in for the kiss is probably the worst place to face rejection in an interaction with a girl because:
- You've invested a lot of TIME by this point in the interaction, and there simply isn't enough time in your night to get this far and then hit a brick wall and have to move on.
- Screwing up this part of the interaction can ruin all chances of moving on from here to seduction.
Most guys don't have the chance to learn how to perfect going for a kiss because it happens so infrequently
The First Concept Is Called Triangular Gazing
This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move
into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another,
then looking at her mouth.
When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.
Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is...the same happens for women.
The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?
By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.
When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.
Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is...the same happens for women.
The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?
By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.
Make Her Subconsciously Think About Kissing You
After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch
between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.
Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.
When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.
Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".
You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.
She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.
Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.
When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.
Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".
You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.
She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.
Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
jeudi 23 mars 2017
The Most Dangerous Mistakes YOU Probably Make with Women
MISTAKE #1: Being Too Much of a "Nice Guy"
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice"
guys?
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
MISTAKE #2: Trying to "Convince Her to Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work
You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
Of course you have.
Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.
What's going on here?
It's actually very simple...
Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.
And guess what?
Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.
And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.
I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.
MISTAKE #2: Trying to "Convince Her to Like You"
What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?
Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.
Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!
Never, ever, EVER.
You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".
Think about it.
If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?
But we all do it.
When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
Bad idea. One that will never work
MISTAKE #6: Not "Getting" How Attraction Works for Women
Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.
When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.
But does the same apply for women?
Do women feel sexual attraction to men based mostly on looks? Or is something else going on?
Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.
Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
mercredi 22 mars 2017
How to Use 'Sexual Tension' to Skyrocket Your Success with Women
Take a minute and "mentally answer" that question. Think it over if you have to.
I'm not kidding. Think about it.
What did you come up with?
To most men, the words "Sexual Tension" are a MYSTERY.
They just don't make sense.
Or if they DO make sense, they make sense in a way that DOESN'T make sense. Make sense?
In other words, some guys think that the words Sexual Tension mean "negative anxiety about sex" or something equally unhelpful.
But if you go ask a group of WOMEN what the words mean, you'll get a MUCH different answer.
Women know what Sexual Tension is.
To a woman, Sexual Tension is the feeling that she feels during those times when she is interacting with a man that she feels ATTRACTION for... but she doesn't know exactly what's going to happen.
Maybe she can't tell if he's into her, but the conversation is so good that something MUST be happening...
Maybe he's making her laugh a little bit "too much", and she's unable to control her feelings towards him...
Or maybe it's obvious that he's interested, but he's so in control of himself and the situation that he's not blatantly "making a move"... and she's on the edge of her seat waiting to know what's going to happen.
These are all possible examples of Sexual Tension.
Now, just because one of these situations is happening doesn't mean that Sexual Tension is present.
But these are the types of situations where it is MOST LIKELY to be present.
With that, let me see if I can take you behind the scenes, and give you a different perspective.
Men and women have some BIG differences when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by much different things than women.
For women, things usually begin with a small spark.
Eye contact for a little too long.
A Cocky & Funny comment.
A teasing remark.
It can be anything.
The point is that SOMETHING SPARKS the ATTRACTION.
Then it GROWS over time.
It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it does usually require time.
It might take an evening, or it might take a date or two... but if a man does all the right things he can AMPLIFY one these little sparks of attraction into a powerful emotional feeling for a woman... that is too much for her to resist.
Of course, as we both know, a man can usually feel a sexual attraction to a woman INSTANTLY.
I'm sure you've had a woman smile at you and BOY-OY-OY-OY-ING.
SCHWING.
AWWWWW YAYAHHHHH.
What's worse, we totally don't get how things work for women.
So we tend to do all the WRONG things.
And when we do all the WRONG things, women don't even get the little sparks that can grow into full-blown ATTRACTION.
1) Tease.
If you want to INSTANTLY change the way a hot, stuck-up woman is behaving, TEASE HER about something.
Now, not all beautiful women are stuck up.
Duh.
But teasing works PARTICULARLY well when a woman IS stuck up... lol.
Maybe it's her big purse.
Or her tall shoes.
Or her "runway model" walk.
Whatever.
Just tease her.
Say "Hey, what's with the big purse? You're not one of those women with a live dog named 'Precious' in there, along with organic vegan high-protein treats for when she's in the mood to be pampered, are you?"
It doesn't matter.
Just say something to tease her.
Oh, and it's usually better if you can do this with a STRAIGHT FACE. This creates even MORE tension.
If you MUST smile, make sure it's the "I'm only smiling because I know that you can't believe how confident I am that you love me" kind.
2) Eye Contact
When a man and a woman make eye contact for the FIRST TIME, it's USUALLY the man who looks away first.
Men are WUSSIES when it comes to doing things that say "I'm a strong, confident person".
Looking away when you make eye contact with a woman is one of those things. BIG TIME.
Instead, if you HOLD the eye contact until SHE looks away (and you don't fidget or twitch like you've got some strange bug crawling up your shirt), it will send a strong signal.
Oh, and it has a good chance of "sparking" this attraction that we're talking about.
3) Roll Play
Often an opportunity will come up when you're meeting a woman to instantly shift into a "roll play".
Maybe she mentions that she's getting a new job. Tell her that you sure hope it pays well, because she's going to have to support both of you...
And then tell her that you hope she has enough energy to cook at night after work, because you need a wife who can bring home the bacon, AND fry it up in a pan...
Then tell her that something she just said screwed it all up for you, and that you're probably going to wind up divorcing her a week after you get married... and taking half of HER money.
Roll-playing is fun, and if it's done right it can REALLY spark this tension that we're talking about.
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I'm not kidding. Think about it.
What did you come up with?
To most men, the words "Sexual Tension" are a MYSTERY.
They just don't make sense.
Or if they DO make sense, they make sense in a way that DOESN'T make sense. Make sense?
In other words, some guys think that the words Sexual Tension mean "negative anxiety about sex" or something equally unhelpful.
But if you go ask a group of WOMEN what the words mean, you'll get a MUCH different answer.
Women know what Sexual Tension is.
To a woman, Sexual Tension is the feeling that she feels during those times when she is interacting with a man that she feels ATTRACTION for... but she doesn't know exactly what's going to happen.
Maybe she can't tell if he's into her, but the conversation is so good that something MUST be happening...
Maybe he's making her laugh a little bit "too much", and she's unable to control her feelings towards him...
Or maybe it's obvious that he's interested, but he's so in control of himself and the situation that he's not blatantly "making a move"... and she's on the edge of her seat waiting to know what's going to happen.
These are all possible examples of Sexual Tension.
Now, just because one of these situations is happening doesn't mean that Sexual Tension is present.
But these are the types of situations where it is MOST LIKELY to be present.
With that, let me see if I can take you behind the scenes, and give you a different perspective.
Men and women have some BIG differences when it comes to ATTRACTION.
Men have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by much different things than women.
For women, things usually begin with a small spark.
Eye contact for a little too long.
A Cocky & Funny comment.
A teasing remark.
It can be anything.
The point is that SOMETHING SPARKS the ATTRACTION.
Then it GROWS over time.
It doesn't have to be a lot of time, but it does usually require time.
It might take an evening, or it might take a date or two... but if a man does all the right things he can AMPLIFY one these little sparks of attraction into a powerful emotional feeling for a woman... that is too much for her to resist.
Of course, as we both know, a man can usually feel a sexual attraction to a woman INSTANTLY.
I'm sure you've had a woman smile at you and BOY-OY-OY-OY-ING.
SCHWING.
AWWWWW YAYAHHHHH.
What's worse, we totally don't get how things work for women.
So we tend to do all the WRONG things.
And when we do all the WRONG things, women don't even get the little sparks that can grow into full-blown ATTRACTION.
How to Create Sexual Tension In a Woman
So here are a few ideas for "sparking" that initial tension that I'm talking about...1) Tease.
If you want to INSTANTLY change the way a hot, stuck-up woman is behaving, TEASE HER about something.
Now, not all beautiful women are stuck up.
Duh.
But teasing works PARTICULARLY well when a woman IS stuck up... lol.
Maybe it's her big purse.
Or her tall shoes.
Or her "runway model" walk.
Whatever.
Just tease her.
Say "Hey, what's with the big purse? You're not one of those women with a live dog named 'Precious' in there, along with organic vegan high-protein treats for when she's in the mood to be pampered, are you?"
It doesn't matter.
Just say something to tease her.
Oh, and it's usually better if you can do this with a STRAIGHT FACE. This creates even MORE tension.
If you MUST smile, make sure it's the "I'm only smiling because I know that you can't believe how confident I am that you love me" kind.
2) Eye Contact
When a man and a woman make eye contact for the FIRST TIME, it's USUALLY the man who looks away first.
Men are WUSSIES when it comes to doing things that say "I'm a strong, confident person".
Looking away when you make eye contact with a woman is one of those things. BIG TIME.
Instead, if you HOLD the eye contact until SHE looks away (and you don't fidget or twitch like you've got some strange bug crawling up your shirt), it will send a strong signal.
Oh, and it has a good chance of "sparking" this attraction that we're talking about.
3) Roll Play
Often an opportunity will come up when you're meeting a woman to instantly shift into a "roll play".
Maybe she mentions that she's getting a new job. Tell her that you sure hope it pays well, because she's going to have to support both of you...
And then tell her that you hope she has enough energy to cook at night after work, because you need a wife who can bring home the bacon, AND fry it up in a pan...
Then tell her that something she just said screwed it all up for you, and that you're probably going to wind up divorcing her a week after you get married... and taking half of HER money.
Roll-playing is fun, and if it's done right it can REALLY spark this tension that we're talking about.
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mardi 21 mars 2017
How to Kiss a Girl and Never Get Rejected
cally find one girl they hit it off with at the bar where a kiss is probably even a
possibility.
So normally, you'd have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.
But luckily, I've already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.
Sound good?
The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you're speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!
Pretty powerful stuff...
First, you won't know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:
Your hesitation = Her reservation
So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.
When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don't do it the right way at the right time, you'll come off as needy (like you don't have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn't be worrying about the kiss with this girl.
So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you?
We use what's called The Kiss Technique.
This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.
When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.
Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is...the same happens for women.
The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?
By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.
When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will...
Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.
When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.
Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".
You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.
She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.
Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.
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So normally, you'd have to face a lot of these rejections one by one to learn the best way to successfully go in for a kiss.
But luckily, I've already gone through all those failures for you (until I discovered this killer technique), and can present the best way to avoid failure and shortcut right to success.
Sound good?
The Kiss Technique makes it so that when you're speaking to a woman, you can intentionally give off subconscious triggers that will make her think about kissing you!
Pretty powerful stuff...
If You Use This Technique, Suddenly Making a Woman Want to Kiss You Will Be Something You Have Control Over
If you decide to "wing it" in the stage like most guys, however, you're going to run into problems...First, you won't know how physically receptive she is to kissing you. A tried and true rule to go by is this:
Your hesitation = Her reservation
So the more you hesitate, the worse your chances get, because she starts to build up all sorts of red flags and reservations.
When you go to lean in for the kiss and you don't do it the right way at the right time, you'll come off as needy (like you don't have a lot of options with women) because if you did have a lot of options, you wouldn't be worrying about the kiss with this girl.
So how do we show that you are absolutely NOT needy (even if you kind of feel like you are) and provide a way so that you will not fear rejection because you will know for sure ahead of time that she is wanting to kiss you?
We use what's called The Kiss Technique.
This involves combining two psychological concepts into a perfect recipe for mastering the kiss.
The First Concept Is Called Triangular Gazing
This will happen while you have built rapport and are looking to move into seduction. It involves looking from one eye to another, then looking at her mouth.When you start looking at her mouth, you will subconsciously start to think about kissing her, because this action is already anchored to the thought of kissing someone.
Even if you look at a woman you're not attracted to and look at her mouth, you can start to think about kissing her, and you will become MORE attracted to her.
The good news is...the same happens for women.
The even BETTER news is...you can lead her to subconsciously start to do this and feel more attracted. How?
By using the second half of the recipe...another psychological concept called Mirroring.
Whenever we are in conversation with someone, we will mirror the leader of the conversation in an attempt to build subconscious rapport with them.
When you perfectly combine triangular gazing and mirroring, you have a combination that will...
Make Her Subconsciously Think About Kissing You
After talking with her in rapport, start to look at her mouth. At first, only for 2 seconds, then look back to her eyes. Switch between her left and right eye, then back to her mouth for a few seconds longer.Continue to go from left to right eye and back to her mouth for 2 seconds, 3 seconds, then 5 seconds.
Eventually, you want to be mostly looking at her mouth.
When she begins to look at your mouth as well, you know for sure that she's ready to kiss you.
Voila! The Kiss Technique takes all of the guess work out of "making a move".
You will now know with confidence when she wants to kiss you, and get to be the fully assertive but perceptive man that women find irresistibly sexy.
She will feel like you know exactly how to treat a woman and feel safe and confident moving on with you.
Now, if you want to take this technique to the next level and make it so that girls will be leaning in to you and basically begging you to kiss them, you only have to know one magical sentence.
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lundi 20 mars 2017
How to Talk to Women
By golly, you've actually met a woman.
Maybe you're in bar. Maybe you're at the gym or laundromat. Maybe she's someone you know from work. Or maybe, even, you're actually out on a date.
In any event, now you've got to do something scary, something unpredictable, something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship, or end one before it even gets started. YOU'VE GOT TO TALK TO HER.
What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood, your therapist, your plans for the future, the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And, by the way, what would be the "right" thing to say? Do you have a clue?
Most guys don't. When your average gent converses with a woman, he's basically just flailing blindly at the wind, hoping by chance that something he says will "connect" with the woman and make her fall for him.
Needless to say, this is not the "Don Juan" way of doing things.
You need to have a plan. You need to know DEFINITELY what works and what doesn't, what to talk about and what not to talk about. You don't want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. You want to be charming and in control.
And that's what we're going to discuss right now.
Now there are many many aspects of a conversation. This particular article focuses on the conversational TOPICS that you should focus on when wooing a beautiful lady. Those topics which will almost GUARANTEE increased interpersonal attraction. Topics which will leave you in complete charge of the conversation, and which will leave you the option, IF YOU SO DESIRE, of future conversations, dates, or an intense romantic relationship.
Okay, so WHAT exactly do you talk about?
Well, the first thing to remember is that men frequently err by talking TOO MUCH. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're "impressing" the women when, in reality, they're "depressing" the women.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you're saying doesn't necessarily mean she really is. She might just be acting polite while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
So key number one is DON'T TALK SO MUCH! Try not to monopolize the conversation and try to LISTEN to what SHE has to say. Remember, everyone is incredibly interested in what they themselves have to say. People will talk to you about themselves for as long as you will listen.
So stop worrying about what you're going to say next. Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you. Try to visualize or "feel" what she's saying.
This does take a little effort. It's not very hard to do, but it's not something that men "naturally" do. You simply have to concentrate.
Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any "seeds" or free information she happens to throw your way. Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss.
An example:
Kim gives him plenty of free information to follow up on. It's almost as if she's testing him to see if he has the intelligence or social skills to capitalize on what she says. Bob fails.
So what would be the "right" thing to say?
Well... she mentions that this is her first time in the club and she just moved here from Florida. Bob could have properly "watered the seeds" by asking a) How does she like the club, band, etc? b) What brought her here from Florida? c) How long has she been in the area? d) Where in Florida is she from? e) How long was she there? f) What's it like there?
Kim's two short sentences gave Bob tons of information to follow up on. Tons of conversational topics that she has indirectly indicated that she'd like to talk about. But Bob was too worried about himself. Too worried about the impression he was making. Too worried about what to say next to LISTEN to what she said.
Do you see the importance of listening now? You must concentrate on what she says and block everything else out of your mind. If you listen you never have to worry about what to say next because the other person is "telling" you exactly what to say.
Kim even subtly indicated that she was attracted to Bob (or at least not repulsed by him). How? She didn't blow him off. She gave him some free information to talk to her about. This may have been a conscious decision on her part or it may have been a somewhat unconscious act. In any event, Bob didn't pick up on it and blew his chances with her.
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Maybe you're in bar. Maybe you're at the gym or laundromat. Maybe she's someone you know from work. Or maybe, even, you're actually out on a date.
In any event, now you've got to do something scary, something unpredictable, something with the power to launch a future romantic relationship, or end one before it even gets started. YOU'VE GOT TO TALK TO HER.
What do you talk about? Should you tell her about your childhood, your therapist, your plans for the future, the wart on your big toe? What if you can't think of anything to say? What if you say the wrong thing? And, by the way, what would be the "right" thing to say? Do you have a clue?
Most guys don't. When your average gent converses with a woman, he's basically just flailing blindly at the wind, hoping by chance that something he says will "connect" with the woman and make her fall for him.
Needless to say, this is not the "Don Juan" way of doing things.
You need to have a plan. You need to know DEFINITELY what works and what doesn't, what to talk about and what not to talk about. You don't want to leave her feelings to chance or to fate. You want to be charming and in control.
And that's what we're going to discuss right now.
Now there are many many aspects of a conversation. This particular article focuses on the conversational TOPICS that you should focus on when wooing a beautiful lady. Those topics which will almost GUARANTEE increased interpersonal attraction. Topics which will leave you in complete charge of the conversation, and which will leave you the option, IF YOU SO DESIRE, of future conversations, dates, or an intense romantic relationship.
Okay, so WHAT exactly do you talk about?
Well, the first thing to remember is that men frequently err by talking TOO MUCH. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're "impressing" the women when, in reality, they're "depressing" the women.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you're saying doesn't necessarily mean she really is. She might just be acting polite while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
So key number one is DON'T TALK SO MUCH! Try not to monopolize the conversation and try to LISTEN to what SHE has to say. Remember, everyone is incredibly interested in what they themselves have to say. People will talk to you about themselves for as long as you will listen.
So stop worrying about what you're going to say next. Focus all your attention and energy on listening to what the woman is saying to you. Try to visualize or "feel" what she's saying.
This does take a little effort. It's not very hard to do, but it's not something that men "naturally" do. You simply have to concentrate.
Now when listening you want to pay particular attention to any "seeds" or free information she happens to throw your way. Seeds refer to subtle hints that women give that point to conversational topics that they would like to or be willing to discuss.
An example:
Bob: You come here often?Bob is clueless.
Kim: Actually this is my first time here. Just moved here from Florida.
Bob: Oh. I come here every week. I love this band. It's pretty crowded tonight.
Kim gives him plenty of free information to follow up on. It's almost as if she's testing him to see if he has the intelligence or social skills to capitalize on what she says. Bob fails.
So what would be the "right" thing to say?
Well... she mentions that this is her first time in the club and she just moved here from Florida. Bob could have properly "watered the seeds" by asking a) How does she like the club, band, etc? b) What brought her here from Florida? c) How long has she been in the area? d) Where in Florida is she from? e) How long was she there? f) What's it like there?
Kim's two short sentences gave Bob tons of information to follow up on. Tons of conversational topics that she has indirectly indicated that she'd like to talk about. But Bob was too worried about himself. Too worried about the impression he was making. Too worried about what to say next to LISTEN to what she said.
Do you see the importance of listening now? You must concentrate on what she says and block everything else out of your mind. If you listen you never have to worry about what to say next because the other person is "telling" you exactly what to say.
Kim even subtly indicated that she was attracted to Bob (or at least not repulsed by him). How? She didn't blow him off. She gave him some free information to talk to her about. This may have been a conscious decision on her part or it may have been a somewhat unconscious act. In any event, Bob didn't pick up on it and blew his chances with her.
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dimanche 19 mars 2017
How to Tell If a Girl Is Attracted to You
Many guys wonder whether women are attracted to them, mainly because women are much more
subtle than guys when it comes to showing their attraction towards someone. However, once you
know the secrets, spotting the signs is easy. Just one of these actions is enough to act on,
more than one then go for it! Here are the ways women may show that they like you:
. When She Wants to Speak to You:
- She will point her feet in your direction when standing up.
- She may smile, or look away embarrassed when holding eye contact.
- She jerks her leg in your direction if sitting down with legs crossed.
- She adjusts her posture – sitting up straighter and holding in her belly.
- She faces you with her hips/legs towards you while sitting.
- She opens up her body language to you while standing.
- She brushes up against you unnecessarily when she passes.
- She looks at you twice before approach.
- She touches her hair when she notices you.
- If you receive any of these gestures, definitely move in and begin conversation with her. The next aim is to move the interaction along to a point where the girl actually wants to continue pursuing a conversation with you. This may happen instantly, or it could take a while. If you have jumped straight in without any of the above signals, look for some of the below to know if she is interested.
2. If She is Interested in Extending the Interaction:
- She asks your name.
- She asks you questions
- She responds with extended answers to your questions.
So those are the signs that she likes you enough to want to talk to you, but how can you tell if she actually wants to get physical with you?
3. If She is Sexually Attracted to You:
- She strokes her neck when talking to you.
- She gazes at your mouth.
- She tilts head to the side when speaking to you.
- Her pupils dilate.
- She laughs at your jokes, even when they aren't funny.
- She is happy listening to you even when you are talking rubbish.
- She holds eye contact with you and doesn't look around the room or at her friends. (Note – if she is nervous and it is just not her character to hold strong eye contact, she could still be interested.)
- She is doesn't mind you touching her and entering her space.
- She is willing to leave her friends and stay with you.
- She laughs and hits you on the shoulder when you tease her.
- She looks at you in a dreamy way.
- She asks if you're single.
- She uses your name in conversation.
- She leans in towards you.
Knowing the signs that a girl is attracted to use is very useful, as it not only tells you whether or not to make the move but also helps to avoid crucial opportunities. Your success rate with women will increase significantly, just by knowing how to read women.
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samedi 18 mars 2017
the Essential Flirting Moves You Must Know
There are the essential flirting moves that you must know:
You can ask "what's the story behind that?" about any special or unusual thing your quarry is wearing or carrying. Examples: "That's a really neat bracelet you are wearing. What's the story behind that?" or "That's a really great briefcase. What's the story behind that?" Even if there isn't much of one, it's given you some conversation.
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1) Smiling
You must smile. You probably think you smile now, but you don't, really. You should practice your smile in the mirror. To be big enough to be noticed, your smile will probably have to be bigger than you are used to.2) Getting Caught Looking
Most people look away when the object of their desire looks at them. If you want to let that person know you are interested, when they catch you looking, smile, hold eye contact a moment longer, then look away.3) Waving
A little wave to someone who caught you looking, along with a smile, is a non-intrusive, very flirty way to say "hello."4) Winking
You can wink at someone from across the room, or wink at someone during a conversation. If he or she says something funny, or someone else does something silly, you can give a wink as a way of sharing a little moment for just the two of you, as if the two of you are in on some private joke no one else is aware of.5) Asking "What's the Story Behind That?"
You can ask "what's the story behind that?" about any special or unusual thing your quarry is wearing or carrying. Examples: "That's a really neat bracelet you are wearing. What's the story behind that?" or "That's a really great briefcase. What's the story behind that?" Even if there isn't much of one, it's given you some conversation.
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vendredi 17 mars 2017
The Step-by-Step Guide to the Perfect Approach
Imagine you are taking a walk in the city.
The sun is shining. It’s a beautiful day. Or let’s say that it could be a beautiful day if you wouldn’t see so many beautiful women. It’s pure torture. You see one stunning girl after another and they all walk around in short dresses.
You would give everything to talk to one of these girls, to make her smile, and to take her out on a date.
But you are too afraid.
You can’t even remember the last time you approached a woman. Just the idea of approaching a woman makes you want to throw up. You don’t know how to stand, what to say, or when to ask her for her number. If you only knew these things, you would be way more confident.
Don’t you think it’s time to learn the steps of the perfect approach?
It is and the following infographic that was originally published on this post about conversation techniques reveals each and every step.
But I want to make it as easy as possible for you to succeed. That’s why I decided to explain every single step in more detail. I really hope that the following step-by-step guide helps you to approach beautiful women and to get more phone numbers than your phone can store.
The sun is shining. It’s a beautiful day. Or let’s say that it could be a beautiful day if you wouldn’t see so many beautiful women. It’s pure torture. You see one stunning girl after another and they all walk around in short dresses.
You would give everything to talk to one of these girls, to make her smile, and to take her out on a date.
But you are too afraid.
You can’t even remember the last time you approached a woman. Just the idea of approaching a woman makes you want to throw up. You don’t know how to stand, what to say, or when to ask her for her number. If you only knew these things, you would be way more confident.
Don’t you think it’s time to learn the steps of the perfect approach?
It is and the following infographic that was originally published on this post about conversation techniques reveals each and every step.
But I want to make it as easy as possible for you to succeed. That’s why I decided to explain every single step in more detail. I really hope that the following step-by-step guide helps you to approach beautiful women and to get more phone numbers than your phone can store.
1- Overcome Approach Anxiety
Yes, you can approach thousands of women and desensitize yourself to
the experience of talking to beautiful women. That can work.
But there’s an easier way and it starts in your mind.
Most men are so afraid of approaching women that their mind produces one horror scenario after another. As a result, approaching women becomes a burden instead of an exciting experience.
What’s the solution? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on all the negative things that could happen, you focus on achieving your goals. Imagine how it would feel to kiss a beautiful woman at the end of the date. If you leave your house with this image in mind, you can’t lose.
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Most men are so afraid of approaching women that their mind produces one horror scenario after another. As a result, approaching women becomes a burden instead of an exciting experience.
What’s the solution? Change your focus. Instead of focusing on all the negative things that could happen, you focus on achieving your goals. Imagine how it would feel to kiss a beautiful woman at the end of the date. If you leave your house with this image in mind, you can’t lose.
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mercredi 15 mars 2017
Waiting to Meet Ms. Perfect?
It must be really tough. Do you think you are just a victim of bad luck and that’s the reason Ms. Perfect hasn’t appeared in your life yet? Or have you decided that maybe Ms. Perfect only exists on movie screens and not out here in the real world? BINGO! You’ve got it. She doesn’t exist anywhere except in your imagination and on movie screens.
The truth of the matter is that the reason Ms. Perfect hasn't appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad, but everything to do with you and the fact that you are busy looking for a person that doesn't exist! You can't date with your eyes closed and some impossible dream in your head. You'll get so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek! You haven't met the person of your dreams because you aren't looking for the things that will make them close enough to perfect for you.
You are so confident that every woman you have met could not give you what you wanted. But what was it that you wanted in the first place? Once you are sure of what you want, you will know exactly what to look for in your woman. What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in a person? What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on? Have you thought about all these?
Remember, that nobody on this earth is perfect. Everybody has faults…some are bigger faults than other faults. Some are faults you can overlook and some are faults that you couldn’t overlook on your best day and if she was the most beautiful, most sexy woman on the planet.
When you meet a woman, remember, however hard you try to impress others, you cannot control their thought processes. Instead, it’s far better to concentrate on your needs and desires, and how much of what you need would be fulfilled if you dated this woman.
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The truth of the matter is that the reason Ms. Perfect hasn't appeared has nothing to do with your luck, good or bad, but everything to do with you and the fact that you are busy looking for a person that doesn't exist! You can't date with your eyes closed and some impossible dream in your head. You'll get so caught up in this whole exercise of dating that you forget to look for the qualities you seek! You haven't met the person of your dreams because you aren't looking for the things that will make them close enough to perfect for you.
You are so confident that every woman you have met could not give you what you wanted. But what was it that you wanted in the first place? Once you are sure of what you want, you will know exactly what to look for in your woman. What are the qualities that you feel are necessary in a person? What are the attributes you are willing to make a compromise on? Have you thought about all these?
Remember, that nobody on this earth is perfect. Everybody has faults…some are bigger faults than other faults. Some are faults you can overlook and some are faults that you couldn’t overlook on your best day and if she was the most beautiful, most sexy woman on the planet.
When you meet a woman, remember, however hard you try to impress others, you cannot control their thought processes. Instead, it’s far better to concentrate on your needs and desires, and how much of what you need would be fulfilled if you dated this woman.
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Places to Meet Women to Date
Meeting women that you would actually want to date and, maybe eventually, bring home to meet mom and dad, isn’t as hard as it sounds. There is, of course, the singles scene out in the bars and clubs all over town but I don’t recommend that one. It’s not that just bad girls go to bars; it’s that it is hard to tell the good ones from the bad one.
You meet women at work, too, but, there again, I don’t recommend dating them. The problem with that is that, if things don’t work out, you will still have to work together and the situation could be awkward to say the least.
Your friends know women that you haven’t met - sisters, cousins, etc. Ask them to introduce you to them. But, big brother, do avoid blind dates. Those things hardly ever work out and you can spend a lot of money for a very uncomfortable evening.
The best places to meet women that you might actually want to date are at clubs and organizations that you belong to. You will already have something in common with them and will have had the opportunity to see them interact with other people and that tells you a lot about a person. If you aren’t already involved with any clubs or organizations the, for heaven sakes, join some. Find ones that are all about something you are interested in. There are clubs and organizations that cover just about anything you can think of from astronomy to zoology and single women are involved in all of them.
Church is an excellent place to meet women. If there aren’t any single women in the church you go to now, visit other churches until you find one where there are single women. The church itself will provide you with an opportunity to get to know the woman before you ask her for a date. You will be a lot more comfortable and so will she.
Get involved in civic organizations. Women love men who are civic minded. They admire men who are willing to “give back”. And what about political campaigns? You will meet a lot of young women who are passionate about politics.
If all else fails, join a good online dating service. You will meet a lot of eligible women. You can read their profiles and see pictures of them. After you get to know one well enough to ask her for a face-to-face meeting, be sure that you plan the meeting during daylight hours and in a public place.
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You meet women at work, too, but, there again, I don’t recommend dating them. The problem with that is that, if things don’t work out, you will still have to work together and the situation could be awkward to say the least.
Your friends know women that you haven’t met - sisters, cousins, etc. Ask them to introduce you to them. But, big brother, do avoid blind dates. Those things hardly ever work out and you can spend a lot of money for a very uncomfortable evening.
The best places to meet women that you might actually want to date are at clubs and organizations that you belong to. You will already have something in common with them and will have had the opportunity to see them interact with other people and that tells you a lot about a person. If you aren’t already involved with any clubs or organizations the, for heaven sakes, join some. Find ones that are all about something you are interested in. There are clubs and organizations that cover just about anything you can think of from astronomy to zoology and single women are involved in all of them.
Church is an excellent place to meet women. If there aren’t any single women in the church you go to now, visit other churches until you find one where there are single women. The church itself will provide you with an opportunity to get to know the woman before you ask her for a date. You will be a lot more comfortable and so will she.
Get involved in civic organizations. Women love men who are civic minded. They admire men who are willing to “give back”. And what about political campaigns? You will meet a lot of young women who are passionate about politics.
If all else fails, join a good online dating service. You will meet a lot of eligible women. You can read their profiles and see pictures of them. After you get to know one well enough to ask her for a face-to-face meeting, be sure that you plan the meeting during daylight hours and in a public place.
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
mardi 14 mars 2017
How to be Romantic
What is it exactly that makes a woman see a man as romantic? Most of the time it's the little things that women notice. A glance, a quick touch or brush across her back. Sure, flowers are nice, but haven't they almost become a cliché. That's not to say women don't like flowers because they do, but if that's all you've got then it will only go so far. You have to mix it up, change your style and use your imagination to create romantic moments.
The key factor in creating romantic moments is to put the lady’s likes ahead of your own.
Creating romantic moments is so easy it’s a wonder every man in the world doesn’t “get” this. All you have to do is think of an activity built around something she likes to do. Does she like shopping (not something men even like to think about much less do), fine dining, walks on a beach, watching movies and the list goes on.
It's all about doing something she likes with her. What will make such activities seem even more romantic to her is if you choose to do something she likes to do with her when a ball game is on TV that you could be watching with your buddies. She will feel chosen…and that, sir, is VERY romantic indeed.
It doesn’t matter which activity to choose to participate in with the woman that you want to think of you as romantic. The trick is for you to be totally involved mentally in the activity and not staring off into space or obviously just wishing it were over so you could go do what you really want to do. Remember this is you trying to be romantic so concentrate on the project at hand.
It really is so very easy to create romantic moments. With only a little thinking and planning, romantic moments can happen every day and at the most unexpected moments. Being romantic is a win/win situation. There is no reason not to make romantic moments happen at every opportunity.
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
The key factor in creating romantic moments is to put the lady’s likes ahead of your own.
Creating romantic moments is so easy it’s a wonder every man in the world doesn’t “get” this. All you have to do is think of an activity built around something she likes to do. Does she like shopping (not something men even like to think about much less do), fine dining, walks on a beach, watching movies and the list goes on.
It's all about doing something she likes with her. What will make such activities seem even more romantic to her is if you choose to do something she likes to do with her when a ball game is on TV that you could be watching with your buddies. She will feel chosen…and that, sir, is VERY romantic indeed.
It doesn’t matter which activity to choose to participate in with the woman that you want to think of you as romantic. The trick is for you to be totally involved mentally in the activity and not staring off into space or obviously just wishing it were over so you could go do what you really want to do. Remember this is you trying to be romantic so concentrate on the project at hand.
It really is so very easy to create romantic moments. With only a little thinking and planning, romantic moments can happen every day and at the most unexpected moments. Being romantic is a win/win situation. There is no reason not to make romantic moments happen at every opportunity.
read more here / http://WWW.nicewomendating.blogspot.com
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